She was the reason why I ended up dancing on stage, somewhere near Barcelona. And she was the reason why I felt a severe headache, when I discussed the reading with her. I am talking about someone who became a dear friend of mine, and who happened to perform in international musicals – even a renowned piece of opera – like she was a passionate servant of these beautiful kinds of art.

Barcelona

When a mutual friend of ours introduced us to each other, I immediately noticed that we had a fun connection. I knew she was a singer/actress – originally from Hong Kong – but I hadn’t seen her on stage yet. That actually changed when I realized that the musical show in which she was starring, would end anytime soon: I made the effort to travel from Madrid to Barcelona, in order to see her perform. But it was just a detail. A really nice one though, but more interesting was the case when I did an energy reading for her. And from there I started to know her better and better.

Shocked

I will never forget the severe headache I got, when we discussed the reading I did for her – yeah, let’s cut to the chase. During the reading I just noticed it slightly, so I told her about this little tension that I had felt in my head when I was doing the meditation. But along our conversation in one of the Wagamama’s in Madrid, it became more and more tangible. And at some point she shared with me that she actually had had some serious surgery, when she was a kid: a brain tumor needed to be removed. Of course I was shocked when she told me that. But because of the tension in my head, which had gotten stronger and stronger already, it made more sense to me then.

Subconscious

I didn’t tell her about the severeness of the headache, but she did notice that I was awfully quiet on the way to the metro. I said goodbye to her, and back at my place I just let it be, assuming that it would soften up and go away. Somehow it’s as if the energy of someone else would get into my subconscious, and then (regularly, not necessarily) I start feeling it in my own body. After a while – later through the day, or after a good night’s sleep – it would get into my consciousness, so I could feel it differently; in a way that I could interpret it with words or images. In her case I got the feeling it had something to do with her mom.

Traumatic

During our lunch she also shared with me that her dad had passed away, when she was a kid. It must have been a bit before she had the brain tumor and the necessary surgery. And it kinda made sense to me as well, since the loss of a parent (especially at that age) can be quite traumatic, and body and mind could affect each other when such things happen.

It also made me think of the role of her mom’s even more. I guess the loss of her husband was just too much, and it’s quite known that little children tend to help their parents unconditionally, when their elders are having a hard time – whether you would consider it energetically done, figuratively, or more literally. They are just open to do whatever they can to help. And one way to deal with it, is to ‘erase themselves’. Like there is no – or at least way less – space for themselves.

Dominant Mom

When she told me about her mom, I got the impression that her mom was quite demanding, dominant. And it kinda reflected in her other relationships as well, when she had to deal with female authorities, like a manager or a boss: they would be unreasonably demanding. So it might have been her mom who started giving her ‘unreasonable’ jobs, tasks; too much a kid, or daughter, should be dealing with.

Asian Opera Singer

Guess – by now – she already knows there might be a connection between this stuff and her musical/acting career, in which people can be put under a lot of stress, and can be intimidated more often than not. And she regularly feels that she is struggling; career-wise. She is living in London nowadays – one of her all time wishes – but she is craving for more and better opportunities.

On the other hand – if you asked me – she has been doing a great job so far, even though she sometimes might not realise that to the fullest. Like when I saw her perform in Madrid, in this Spanish renowned opera, in which ‘Asian opera singers’ weren’t expected to perform by far, let alone shine like a true and talented professional – since it’s a very Spanish one, a normally very traditional one. Her performance in the opera was actually great, and when she had a solo – including a high pitched ending – I held my breath for a couple of seconds: I was feeling nervous for her, hoping that she would do it perfectly. And she did, it was simply impressive.

Own Space

All in all, I have to say that something – psychologically and energetically – was standing out to me in her case: the struggle between ‘claiming the space that she is entitled to have’ (by her Soul, the Universe, or whatever you might call it) and ‘giving that space away’ – erasing herself to some extent, because other people would demand or expect her to do so (or just that little voice in her head). And maybe because of the latter she is less ‘seen’ and acknowledged than she wishes to be. At least, that’s what got through my mind.

Aladdin

Anyways, this December she is performing in a pantomime of Aladdin, playing the role of princess Jasmine. And although the story of Aladdin is known for it’s magic and his wishes, it is also about a girl (princess Jasmine) who has grown weary of her life of palace confinement – she feels stuck in her ‘little world’. So hopefully my friend will see the resemblance, and she will realise that once she is gonna claim her own space to the fullest, energetically and physically, she will attract (even) more magic in her life. Actually, I can hear the song ‘A Whole New World’ already in my head. Let’s see how soon she will notice it in her own life.